What advice do you give people when they have a potentially career ending mistake?
Stephanie Findlay, a staff writer from the Toronto Star Sports department, asked me this question as she prepared an article for today’s paper so I thought I would post a revised and expanded answer I emailed her.
If I could talk to those 3 NFL players who missed the field goal, dropped the pass and fumbled the ball in over time which resulted in their respective teams being eliminated from the playoffs only minutes away from a birth in the Super Bowl – then I’d hug ’em and listen a lot! Others are recommending they leave town with heads hung low, but I’d advise them otherwise. First, I’d empathize/sympathize, then if timing was right, I’d speak to the heart of their identity and give future hope!
You are loved!
I’d pray silently and then try some words of affirmation like this…You are loved! Your value is not based on your on field performance and other people’s evaluation of your game, but in what God says is true about you as his blood-bought child. You will feel “true” love more now, at this raw emotion moment, because the reasons for people to “fake” love you today is vapourized. You will now find out who loves you and why they love you. It is a litmus test moment for your character and others too! Learn from the reasons for the mistakes and get ready to win a super bowl next year. You can recover and thrive after blowing it in the big game and I’m praying for you to succeed in God’s eyes of love. I also hope you get to win a super bowl! That would be so much sweeter now. You have a bright future. You are loved!
Try lifting the head of a downcast team mate at work.
If I knew those 3 players personally, I’d look them in the eyes and say directly “I love you!” reaffirm why I love their character. Who needs a pick up like that in your sphere of influence at work, home or neighbourhood. Can you think of any words of affirming Bible verses that would lift the head of someone recovering from a big game failure that could cost them their career? I hope this post helps if you know someone who feels the weight of failure at work! In the workplace, big failure can cost someone their job or the jobs of others. They will hear about that from the bosses and management. However, reminding someone of their dignity in God’s eyes after a huge failure is always a winning play! 🙂
Stephanie’s Toronto Star Article: A few words from me and others on how to handle blowing the big game at work, like the NFL guys did on Sunday night past: http://www.thestar.com/iphone/sports/football/nfl/superbowl/article/1119801–ho